Posts Tagged ‘Forgiveness’

The Four Pillars of Prosperity – The First Pillar, Part 3

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

So far, we’ve been working on Demolition of Physical and Mental issues that create blocks to achieving the rich and abundant prosperity flow that is ours to have. Now let’s look at the third area we need to demolish: Emotional Error!

Emotional Demolition is tough! It means we really do need to release those grudges … and the begrudges (like when we begrudge someone else financial windfall, or promotion, etc.) We love the quote from Buddy Hackett: I don’t hold grudges against people; while I’m holding the grudge, they’re out dancing!”

Here’s a great way to begin your demolition of the internal emotions that can play havoc with your prosperity consciousness: Give your emotional voices a name. Your cast might include:

  • Unforgiving Ursula
  • Dramatic Diva
  • Critical Crabbie
  • Judging JoJo
  • Begrudging Bella

You get the idea! It just means listening to those voices you hear from your “not so loving side” and naming them accordingly! Then, empower yourself as Director, and get serious with these characters – write them out of your life script!

Then comes the forgiveness work. As you realize you are bringing up the same person again and again, it’s a signal that you need to let that person go! Here is a great blanket affirmation to help us with this one. As individuals come to your mind who may be creating blocks for you, simply picture them in your mind and say:

I fully and freely forgive you. I release all judgments, resentments, criticisms, and unforgiveness, and transform that energy into good. I hold you to your highest good, and affirm only the best for you.

Also, emotionally, be kind to yourself! We are spiritual beings having a human experience! The humanness means we get to grow! It’s a process! This week, become very aware of the emotional bondage you have created within yourself, and begin to untie those bonds and let that baggage go.

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Why Aren’t My Prayers Answered?

Saturday, December 15th, 2007

You are probably familiar with the phone commercial on TV which shows a techie testing the phone reception as he stops and says, "Can you hear me now?" Then he takes a few more steps, stops again, and repeats his question, "Can you hear me now?"

Commercially it's about clarity of reception and dropped calls. Spiritually it's the age old question about unanswered prayer. The Bible is full of unanswered prayers. The Koran is full of unanswered prayers. The Torah is full of unanswered prayers. The Bagavad Gita is full of … you get the picture.

You may even have your share of unanswered prayers. If so, you're not alone. As a matter of fact you're in good company:

Moses prays to enter the Promised Land, but his request is refused, and he dies on Mt. Nebo. Jeremiah laments national calamity when he cries, "You have covered yourself with a cloud, so that no prayer can pass through." (Lamentations 3:44). The prophet Habakkuk exclaims in despondency, "Oh God, how long shall I cry, and You will not hear me?" (Habakkuk1:2). Job says, "I cry to Thee, and You do not answer me!" (Job 30:20). King David laments, "…God does not hear me!" (Psalm 66:18)

You may even have asked out of frustration, hurt, or anger, "God, can you hear me now? Are you listening?" Many a grieving parent has asked, "God where are you?" Millions of widows and widowers have asked, "Why did God take him away from me?" – "Why did God take her. Doesn't He know I need her?"

On Sept. 11th 2001 three hundred million Americans asked, "How could you let this happen God? Where were you? Where are you now?"

Unanswered knee-mails (prayers) have one thing in common. And we have known what it is for over 2,000 years. James, the brother of Jesus reports Jesus as saying, "You ask, and receive not because … you ask amiss!" (James 4:3)

What does he mean by 'amiss' ? What causes our prayers to go unanswered? Here's the answer! Are you ready? Jesus the Christ said, … are you sure you're ready? … He said, "If we do not forgive others, our prayers will not be answered." (Matt.6:15)

He didn't say – If we fail to forgive others, it will be difficult to get our prayers answered, or that it may take a little longer to get them answered, or that our prayers will be answered anyway because were nice people.

He said if we don't forgive others, our own prayers will not be answered. Seems pretty harsh doesn't it? He's giving us absolutely no wiggle room.

Unity's founder, Charles Fillmore says, "The mind must let go of every unforgiving thought." "The refusal to forgive is the linchpin of unanswered prayer," says Richard Smoley in his bestseller, Inner Christianity. Harry Fosdick, in his classic book, The Meaning of Prayer, says, "We are not ready to receive answered prayer until we forgive."

Seems pretty clear doesn't it? We pray amiss if we don't forgive. And until we forgive, our prayers will not be answered.

So, we invite you to look into your own heart and forgive anyone and everyone who has ever upset you, disappointed you, wronged you, or harmed you in any way. That may be a tall order for some of you. You may have been significantly wronged, or harmed, or upset by someone. You may feel forgiveness is out of the question.

But if you want your prayers answered, you've got to learn to forgive. You must go from bitter to better.

From a metaphysical perspective, forgiveness is a necessary condition for answered prayer. Metaphysically, forgiveness means giving up the false for the true. It means living from our Christ Consciousness instead of our coma consciousness.

We're kidding ourselves if we think we can walk the spiritual path on unforgiving feet. Unanswered prayers are the products of an unforgiving heart. When we tighten our connection to Spirit by unloosening our attachment to an unforgiving spirit, we won't have to ask, "Can you hear me now?"

When we eliminate the static of unforgiveness, the reception will be crystal clear.

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Bitter to Better

Thursday, November 29th, 2007

Ernest Hemingway tells the story about a young man who wrongs his father and then runs away from home to Madrid. Out of great love for his son, the father posts ads in a half dozen or so Madrid newspapers.

"Paco, meet me at the Hotel Montana, 12 noon Tuesday. All is forgiven. Papa."

When the father gets to the hotel, he finds 650 young men named Paco waiting for their fathers.

Forgiveness, it seems, is a universal human need. At its core it is the need to be pardoned, to be released from the emotional strain of having wronged someone or having been wronged by someone. At its essence it means going from bitter to better.

Forgiveness requires an emotional correction. It is an empathic response to a wrong doing. It constitutes an act of extraordinary consideration which oftentimes seems much too lenient, if not down right foolish. But forgiveness is not a doormat philosophy. Forgiveness doesn't mean consent. Forgiveness is an act of release. Essentially it is emotional amnesty. It is truly going from bitter to better… from adversary to ambassador.

That's what Fiorello La Guardia, Mayor of New York did when he relieved a judge for the evening and took the bench himself in one of the poorest wards of the city. A case came up where a grandmother had been arrested for stealing bread to feed her grandchildren.

La Guardia told her, "Unfortunately, you are guilty, and I've got to sentence you. I'm fining you $10 or 10 days in jail."

And then LaGuardia pulled a $10 dollar bill out of his own pocket and gave it to the astonished grandmother.

"I'm going to forgive you this time," said the Mayor, "but I don't want to see you here again."

Then he fined everybody in the courtroom for helping to create a city where grandmothers have to steal bread to feed their grandchildren.

The bailiff passed the hat and the woman left the courthouse that evening both reprimanded and thankful. Not only had her fine been paid, but she left with $47.50 in her purse.

"We must forgive as we would be forgiven," says Emile Cady in her classic Unity book, Lessons in Truth. "To forgive does not mean to arrive at a place of indifference… To forgive is to give some definite good in return for a wrong experienced."

"Emotional wounds cannot heal until we forgive, "says Rosemary Ellen Guiley, in her book Prayer Works. "When we forgive, we experience a tremendous healing of body, mind, and spirit. It doesn't matter whether we forgive a fresh wound or an old hurt; the liberating effect of forgiveness is the same."

Jesus was asked by Peter in Matt. 18:21-22: "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven."

The Christ's answer in verse 22 is somewhat startling. If taken literally it appears we are being asked to forgive as much as 490 times. But we're missing the point if we think Jesus is talking about a literal number.

Forgiving someone – or asking someone for forgiveness is an extraordinary human act of compassion and surrender. And yet it is something we must do for our own good…for our own sanity… for our own peace of mind. Forgiveness frees us from the past and keeps feelings of revenge, resentment, and anger from eating at us, from cannibalizing us.

There is another, more profound, meaning for forgiveness. Metaphysically, forgiveness means giving up the false for the true. Another way of saying that is it means giving up our fixation with fiction. The kind of fiction we're referring to is our attachment to anything which blocks our spiritual growth.

And if it takes 7 times, or 700 times, or 7,000,000 times – to give up a false belief, to give up a false conclusion, to give up a self-defeating course of action or long-standing resentment, then that's the amount of time Spirit gives us to get it right.

And getting it right means forgiving it right… right from the get go. That means going from bitter into better.

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